Hello beautiful being!
My name is Samantha and I have a deep-seated belief that we are ALL designed to live in harmony with our body, our mind and our communities. I believe we were designed this way, we just got lost and now it's time to remember. To remember the power over our minds, the creative force we are within our lives, our bodies as vessels of experience and our connection to our world and each other.
We are conditioned from the moment we are born to meet the expectations of others, our society and culture. Through this conditioning we create an image and persona we are taught to believe is required to be happy and successful in life. This persona is often not aligned to who we truly are, creating a sense of disconnect and discontent. You know that feeling of wearing a costume for the world that doesn't quite fit? Yep, that one. It's a little bit itchy, a little too small, cutting off your ability to fully breathe.
Contrary to what we see out there on social media, remembering can be a slow burn. I didn't wake up with some profound realisation that my career no longer fit, my body wasn't my own or that my sexuality hadn't been given a container to be explored. It happened over time, bit by bit, through experience, reflection and connection experiences where I stretched my capacity and learnt more about myself, my values and my ability to relate to the world around me.
I worked the corporate life only to feel stifled and disconnected from purpose, I was married because I craved security and belonging, I had a poor relationship with sex and my body, and I devoted myself to motherhood because I had given up on myself and wanted better for my kids…I felt completely lost and had no idea who I actually was.
I followed the “should be’s” and “should haves” finding myself feeling trapped in my life, my body and my circumstances. I was my harshest critic and had an ache inside me screaming “surely, this can’t be all there is?!”
Soon enough, the concept of staying where I was, felt harder and more consuming than the concept of leaping into something new.
So, I leapt…now this looks different for everyone, but what my story of leaping looked like is this…I left my marriage (we have found we are much better friends than husband and wife), I became a co-parent, still devoted mum but also made the decision to devote to myself. I explored myself through learning, I learnt through courses, through exploring my body, through making connections and new friends. I rediscovered my body, my queer sexuality and my capacity to love and connect with the world.
So here I am, a few years on, a business owner, mother, co-parenting partner in a beautiful queer relationship, generous friend, and lover of life. It has been a journey and I have a few bruises, but I am a wildly different version of me. And I would choose her again and again, given the chance.
Don't get me wrong, taking the suit off can be terrifying…what will people think?! The idea of what you might lose in your rediscovery journey can be daunting and it's easy to give into those voices before you even give yourself a chance to succeed. That's why it's important to have support and community, whatever that looks like for you. A support network and community that allows you to redefine who you are in the world and hold you as you take your first steps in your new skin. It'll be fresh and a little wobbly, but I promise you, it'll be worth it.
Now is the time to allow yourself to reconnect, to rediscover who you are and to live a life designed uniquely by you, for you.
I want this for you and it's yours for the taking.
If you're searching for support and community on this journey, let's chat!
All my love,
Sam x
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